Out of all the bridesmaid speeches I’ve given, I thought I’d share my personal experience and memories of the time I was the maid of honor for my best friend’s wedding. It was such a momentous reception; the gazebo was draped in white and red roses, friends and family gathered to watch my best friend wed the man of her dreams. Everything was in place for the perfect fairytale wedding, the last thing I wanted to do was ruin it with one of those horrible wedding speeches we’ve all seen. Thankfully when it was time for me to stand and convey my feelings to the bride and groom,

I was well rehearsed to give the bridesmaid speech of the century. With outlets such as books and the Internet, I had the efficient tools to deliver the perfect bridal speech, and ensure my best friend had the wedding of her life. I had been the bride’s best friend for over 15 years, yet I had no clue how to begin my speech! With four months before the wedding I knew I had plenty of time to prepare myself for the upcoming occasion. Books and Internet sites dedicated to bridesmaid speeches are great outlets to get an idea and formulate a structure for your wedding speech. With a few clicks of a mouse I was ready to start my speech.

Knowing someone for many years gives you the advantage of tying in many personal moments to make the speech heartfelt. The bridal speech should have personal events that you and the bride have shared throughout your lives. For example, when you first met, what has made you friends, and what she means to you personally. Reminiscing on these events or stories of funny events the both of you have encountered are wonderful ways at beginning a bridal speech. Even stories of when the bride first met the groom can send giggles throughout the crowd, which is effective for gaining the crowd’s attention and breaking the ice. A heartfelt message is always well received by the audience and the newly wedded couple and should be the foundation for your speech.

Your bridesmaid speech should have serious parts as well. I used a couple of books to aid in my speech (click here to see the one that really helped me the most), which suggested incorporating a quote to sum up your relationship with the bride, or what you wish for the new couples’ future. With thousands of quotes it can be hard to find the right one, and you also don’t want to pick a cliché quote. This is why you want to allow yourself time to find the perfect quote, or even make up your own. If you and the bride have an , “inside joke,” or a regular , “saying,” you can incorporate them into wonderful quotes or themes for your speech.

If you’re still lost and in need of a safe choice, it’s always good to go with a quote in regards to everlasting happiness, and a wonderful marriage. Although this is a safe choice for your wedding speech, it will still make everyone smile in the room, leaving you looking like a total pro. One month before my best friend’s wedding I finally had the perfect bridesmaid speech, the only problem was I was afraid to speak in public. I couldn’t let my fear of public speaking ruin my best friend’s wedding , so I decided to practice my speech whenever I had the chance. Regardless if I was on a lunch break with my co-workers, or sitting at dinner with family and friends, I always found time to practice my speech.

Not only will this get you comfortable to speak in front of an audience, but it’ll also let you hear yourself out loud and decide if the speech is formatted to your liking. If time is of the essence you can also use note cards as a general guide for your bridesmaid speech; just remember to still practice so you can still be professional. I used to be terrified to speak in front of a crowded room, especially my best friend’s wedding, but with all the ideas from books and the Internet, I felt no fear as I took my glass of champagne, delivered my bridesmaid speech and wished the newly wedded couple a wonderful and mesmerizing evening, and many happy years ahead of them.